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6 False Beliefs That Intensified My Loneliness
Breaking the Chains of Loneliness: 6 False Beliefs That Kept Me Trapped
Loneliness is part of what it means to be human. You can bet that everyone you know has been lonely at some time. It can feel bad at the time, but being alone does not mean being lonely. Some people will do anything to avoid being alone, but it’s important to enjoy solitude, not dread it.
As someone who suffered from social anxiety for years, I also struggled with loneliness. Even though I would try to avoid every form of human contact, I would still feel lonely and I had a lot of common misbeliefs about solitude that made me feel even more lonely because I didn’t deal with them.
1. I’m Alone, so I Must be Boring
There’s a lot of pressure to be ‘on’ and extroverted. But most people aren’t like that. Living your regular life and just being you doesn’t mean you’re boring.
You probably know that you can’t please everyone. You can’t guarantee that everyone will like you either. However, if you believe this, take stock of how many people like you. Find evidence that this belief is false.
