10 Steps To Transform Yourself Into a Social Butterfly

Ten easy steps to help jump-start your transformation.

Katy Morin
4 min readDec 31, 2022


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For those with social anxiety, speaking to other people can be a daunting task. The fear of becoming anxious, feeling the need to escape before you can engage in conversation fully or feeling embarrassed can often lead people to avoid social interaction altogether. However, there are ways you can work on your social skills and become more comfortable being around other people, even if this type of situation usually leaves you feeling anxious or embarrassed. Here are some steps that might help ease some of your anxiety and make it easier for you to interact with others.

1. Practice interacting with others.

The first step is also one of the hardest, as it requires getting out of your comfort zone and talking to others when you can. This can be very awkward, and socially anxious people are often not used to this situation. So, while you may feel a bit uncomfortable the first few times, see it as a learning experience, and it will get easier with time.

2) Practice new behaviors.

Try out new behaviors you know may make you anxious, or simply avoid some of your old negative habits, like avoiding eye contact or smiling too much. While these may have been useful when you were younger, they no longer serve any purpose, so learn to eliminate them from your behavior as much as possible.

3) Do not try to impress others.

Focus on being yourself, and do not place that much importance on impressing others. Instead, focus on the conversation and do not try to impress them by discussing your wealth or something else you might see as an accomplishment. Instead, this is a time to connect with others and speak of things that interest you to get them interested in what you have to say.

4) Practice saying hello.

Another good way to start is simply saying hello when entering a room or passing others in a hallway. While this may seem very simple, practicing this and ensuring you are not over the top when doing so is essential. Even if people do not respond or say hello to you, do not…



Katy Morin

Empowering social anxiety warriors to conquer their fears and thrive socially